Vanessa, Patience and a true desire to listen may lead you to unexpected tolerance. While recently in conversation with a neighbor regarding my health issues I made the statement, It is what it is. In this situation it means I cannot change the outcome neither do I wish to complain or constantly dwell on it by repeating the details of the condition. By the way, my neighbors response sounded much in tune with yours. I decided she hadn't been listening to me at all.