I feel the same way with men below 45/40 if they are "mature" (I am a 26 year old woman). A good deal of the time, when I would try to have a discussion with them, it turned out that I was the one talking 90% of the time and they just nodded in agreement with everything I said (whether it was a political issue or that the sky should be painted pink). I am now with a gentleman well in his 50's and we could not have created better partners for ourselves than one another. I feel that it is an ego booster for both of us - he has a younger woman on his arm who thinks the world of him and I have a brilliant refined classy gentleman on mine.

I am not sure if I would be classified as a gerontophile, but perhaps one of you can tell me. I am a woman, who has a partner that is 25 years older (male). I have no attraction to men my own age, and even when I would try to be physically intimate with a man 10 years older, I felt as though I was with a child. I am generally attracted to men 15 to 45 years older than me, although 15 is really pushing it (preferably 20). I do not have any "daddy issues", I am just more interested in older men. My "partner" is not by any means strictly attracted to younger women, as his ex was 2 years younger, but seems flattered by the attention I can give him.

Personally for me, this is not insecurity. When I was with men closer to my own age (within 10 to 15 years older than me), they could not hold my interest, thus I cheated on most of them. I thought perhaps that meant I was a lesbian, but women did not really do it for me either. I began dating around, and met this wonderful man who treated me with both respect and chivalry, and I was hooked. Would I still be classified as a gerontophile, if I am in a monogamous relationship with this "older gentleman," and not only trying to pick up every "older man" that I can? (We have been together 5 years)